Sexually healing

Changing workouts, being more open with your partner, and altering your routine sex life could reignite your passion and thus heal your body and your relationship.

By: Charlie Dannelly Personal Trainer It's never to late for fitness and it's never to late for SEX. Mentally your sex-drive can stay active late in life, but physically your body just doesn't have enough energy which can lead to frustration and depression, causing a rift in your relationship. Low levels of sexual performance can affect other areas of your life. When your brain wants sex and your body doesn't your negative feelings can start to grow. Depression, apathy, low self-esteem, irritability, along with the growing desire to become reclusive can start to take over your life.
But just as losing weight gives you more energy there are also ways to turn you back into a sexual tyrannosaurus.

Find your energy sappers

Energy sappers are either physical or mental. Here are the most common.
Hormone depletion and imbalance. Lack of sexual energy could be due to male hypogonadism, which occurs when the testicles do not produce enough testosterone, the male sex hormone. In fact, fatigue is one of the most common side effects.
Testosterone levels drop about 1% each year beginning in a man's late 30s, and could fall by as much as 50% by age 70. (A blood test from your doctor can determine if you have low testosterone.) Testosterone replacement therapy, which is given via absorbable pellet implants, topical gels, patches, and injections, can often help spark sexual energy in men with low levels.
A study published in 2016, by The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism showed that a year of testosterone therapy improved libido in 275 men (average age 72) with confirmed low testosterone. Compared with men in a placebo group, frequency of sexual arousal increased by about 50%, and they were able to have almost twice as many erections.
Reduced levels of estrogen can have a big impact on a woman's Sexual Energy. You may experience vaginal dryness that can lead to painful intercourse and you may have unstable mood and sleep patterns. Testosterone, which is primarily thought of as a male hormone, is also made by, and is important to,women. Testosterone has been found to increase aggressiveness, giving women a sexual edge. Some studies have shown that higher levels of testosterone are associated with increased sexual desire and sexual behavior in women.
Speak with your doctor about whether testosterone therapy is an option for you. Long- term risks are not well known, but there is concern for an increased risk of heart disease and prostate problems.
Erectile dysfunction and Clitoral erectile insufficiency syndrome Men with erectile dysfunction can experience low energy because the condition can be a blow to their self-esteem. Men may feel embarrassed about it or worry they will be judged in some way if they cannot perform as well as they once did, so motivation and energy for sex gets depleted. Up to 78% of women, in various age groups have reported a sexual dysfunction such as diminishing libido, vaginal dryness, pain with intercourse, decreased genital sensation and complications with achieving orgasms. These dysfunctions effect the lives of many people.
In this case, speak with your doctor about taking an ED drug or exploring other options for getting or keeping an erection.
Even though talking about ED may be hard, it's important to talk with your partner. For many people, it can help relieve stress to know they are on your side.
My Advice as a personal trainer, do strength baring exercises to increase your muscle solidness. The results will stimulate your body to produce more Testosterone.
Not enough sleep. Poor sleep habits can be one of the main energy sappers. Not getting enough sleep can increase stress levels and interfere with how your body and brain store and use energy, which is why you feel so sluggish after not sleeping well. And if you are tired, you have less energy for sex. Talk with your doctor if you have trouble sleeping. Steps like changing medication or dose, cognitive behavioral therapy, and adjusting your diet and exercising regularly can often improve sleep quality.
You're not moving. When you have no sexual energy, you need to get moving. Regular exercise is one of the best natural energy boosters. Numerous studies have linked exercise with improving fatigue, especially among sedentary people. You don't need much to get a jolt — 2.5 hours per week of moderate-intensity exercise can do the trick. Focus on a combination of cardio and weight-bearing exercises like brisk walking and strength training. If you can't get motivated alone, hire a personal trainer or join a workout class.

Get a check up!

Many medical conditions can affect sexual drive, such as obesity, diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol. So be diligent about regular medical check-ups. Also, many drugs, including blood pressure drugs, antidepressants, and tranquilizers can produce erectile difficulties. Consult with your doctor if you take any of these.

Make your body want it

People that succeed in fitness do so because they work at it long enough for there body to demand it. Force yourselves to do it regularly. Lack of energy also could be relationship-oriented, if you and your partner are not in sexual sync. For instance, you may have energy for sex, but your partner doesn't, or at least not at the same level.
Sex may not always be comfortable for women because of menopausal symptoms like vaginal dryness. If sexual activity is physically uncomfortable, not surprisingly, a woman's sex drive also diminishes. This can affect both partners, and if a man is worried that he might hurt his partner, that will certainly affect his interest in sex, too.
In this situation, you need to talk to your partner about how important sex is to you. It's not about making demands, but about finding ways to explore mutual goals, such as pleasure and closeness.
Perhaps it means negotiating a compromise just like you do in other aspects of a relationship. Partners find ways to share everything from household chores to bill planning, and sex shouldn't be any different.
There's a lot of room to find common ground. There are many ways to be sexually active with your partner besides traditional intercourse. For example, you can ask your partner to be with you when you pleasure yourself, which feels intimate and can allow both partners to feel connected. The key is to make it a habit to share each others sexual experience even later in life.

Talk about it over tea!

We talk to our significant other about many things over tea, why not SEX Sometimes the sexual barrier is not about sex at all. An open dialogue also can reveal issues beneath the surface that may interfere with your partner's sexual energy. And the gravity of that issue is putting to much weight on your sex drive.
Your partner may desire sex as much as you, but there may be underlying problems in the relationship that could affect sexual desire and need to be addressed.
Finally, another way to ignite lost sexual energy is to do new things together. Couples can get into routines that can make for boring sex lives. It can be fun to speak with your partner about ways to keep the relationship interesting and erotic.
Many times, this can be done outside the bedroom, like having more date nights, going for long weekend romantic getaways, or even doing simple activities together like joining a club or taking a class. Or exercising together.
So if you want sexual fitness change your boring routine!

Information interpreted from the Harvard Medical School Health Report.